How did this traveler miss the Megabus?

When Callie Hogan somehow misses her scheduled Megabus to Minneapolis, her mother goes on a crusade to get her a refund. But are mom’s efforts helping or hindering this case?

Question: I purchased a one-way Megabus ticket from Milwaukee to Minneapolis. I was at the station 25 minutes early. When the bus didn’t show up on time, I placed a call to the Megabus customer service station and was told that the bus was running late. Thirty minutes later there was still no bus, I called back and was told that the bus had departed the pick-up stop on time. I saw several buses but none were the Megabus.

When I asked him for a plausible explanation of how someone could possibly miss the royal blue and yellow bus, the representative replied that the Megabus no longer supported that route and that it was subcontracted by another company. When I further pressed him how is an individual supposed to know this, he stated that it is printed on my ticket and the bus would have Megabus signage.

At the very least I am requesting a full refund of my original ticket, the Uber that I had to take to the Greyhound bus station and my replacement Greyhound ticket. Callie Hogan, Minneapolis, Minn.

Answer: When a customer buys a ticket with a company that is known for its distinct dark blue, double-decker vehicles, it’s reasonable that they will expect that type of bus to appear.

You were waiting for that big blue bus to show up, but it never did.

Later you found out why. Megabus does not directly serve that route. Your bus that day was white. But since no one had informed you of this, it came and went right in front of your eyes.

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When I reviewed your paperwork, I was surprised to see that you never contacted Megabus directly about your problem.

Someone else did: your mom.

Unfortunately, your mom’s approach was all wrong even if she was the passenger — which she wasn’t. She wrote many emails to Megabus complaining that you should be refunded, reimbursed for the Greyhound ticket and for your Uber ride.

She also made threats that “legal counsel” instructed her to contact the Better Business Bureau to report Megabus for their poor customer service.

In the end, her battle with Megabus went nowhere.

It is likely that Megabus did not make an effort to assist your mom because she was not the passenger. You, as the adult passenger, are its customer. Megabus has no obligation to respond to your mom.

Except in rare situations, we also do not advocate with parents for their adult children.

The reason being that moms (sometimes dads) who contact us often do not have an accurate accounting of all of the facts of their offspring’s case.

This makes the problem particularly difficult to advocate. It’s a lot like playing the game “telephone” — with information becoming less and less reliable each time it is shared.

However, when you sent this request for help, you signed the name Callie Hogan. So, despite my hunch that I was actually speaking to mom, I decided to advocate your case.

I will get to the source of my suspicion in a moment.

I certainly believed that you were due a refund for the bus that you missed because of the miscommunication. What I didn’t think you were entitled to was a refund for the Greyhound ticket.

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You told me that you thought Megabus should pay for both because of your inconvenience. But as I told you, this was a request that I could not get on board with. There is no reason that you should get a free trip to Minneapolis simply because you missed your bus — regardless of who was at fault.

And as we have pointed out many times, when you throw in an unreasonable compensation request to an otherwise reasonable complaint, you hurt your chances of getting a favorable resolution.

With that in mind, I contacted Megabus on your behalf and left out your request for double reimbursement.

Our executive contact quickly responded with some clarification.

Your bus was subcontracted that day, but that bus had a placard that clearly identified it as a Megabus. This bus stopped at the Megabus stop and was operating on schedule. There were 11 Megabus customers who were scheduled to be picked up at your stop.

Ten out of 11 Megabus customers were able to recognize this bus as the scheduled Megabus.

Only one customer — you — was unable to identify this bus as the Megabus.

Lastly, our contact pointed out that there is no record of any calls to Megabus from you on that day. The first written complaint that is recorded is from Susie, your mom, one week after this bus fiasco.

For all of these reasons, Megabus does not believe that it failed you as a customer. But, as a gesture of goodwill, it will provide you a voucher in the full amount of your ticket.

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Based on the paper trail of this case and my conversations with our executive at Megabus, I think it is a fair resolution.

It is unclear why you missed the Megabus. And what is also unclear is who has been contacting me for help — Susie or Callie.

When I compare the email address that your mom used to communicate with Megabus in her many emails and the email address that I have been communicating with — I can see that they are the same.

When a parent, with good intentions, tries to help an adult child to advocate a problem that they should be able to self-advocate, it almost always backfires. Most companies won’t even engage with a parent of a customer — with good reason. First-hand accounts are critical in resolving a problem.

Problems being relayed through a third party are often unreliable, especially when that third party is a protective parent of an adult child.

So parents, remember, let your children handle their own battles. If the battle isn’t important enough for your busy child to make time for, take your cue from them and just “let it go.”

Michelle Couch-Friedman

Michelle is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, consumer advocate, writer and photographer who spends as much time as possible exploring the world with her family. She is Advocacy & Editorial Director at

  • sirwired

    Yeah, unless the daughter was a teenager or something, it’s time to cut the umbilical cord.

    And Mom wasn’t very good at it anyway… did she think that anybody would believe, for one second, that “legal counsel” was engaged for this petty dispute?

    90% of the customers figuring out which bus to board would be a good indication that MegaBus didn’t exactly have a super-stealth pickup here.

  • ArizonaRoadWarrior

    It seems like this helicopter parent crashed and burned in this situation.

    How can the daughter learn to solve problems when her mother is interfering? For this specific issue, her mother was not a good teacher of how to solve the problem…she did a lot of things incorrectly.

    She probably missed the bus because she was counting on her mother to find the bus. It seems like a lot of young people today are lacking problem solving skills based upon the encounters that I have with…I think that it is a result of their parents doing everything for them.

  • John Baker

    Hmmm… Anyone else think that we didn’t get “the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth” in this case. Too many thing point to Callie not wanting to tell Susie what happened exactly.

  • Bill___A

    Usually, when there is a group of people waiting for a bus, they are doing it together. How would she be at the “correct bus stop” and miss it, while all those other people got on. Makes no sense at all.

  • finance_tony

    If my “legal counsel” thought that the BBB was anything but a sham, I’d fire my “legal counsel.” :)

  • ArizonaRoadWarrior

    I don’t think that we got the whole story

  • sirwired

    I’ve always wondered what the “whole truth” was behind the infamous case here where somebody’s (Very Busy and Important) son had a girl who was totally-not-a-drunken-hookup barf in the back of an Uber he summoned, and Mom was upset that Uber had the temerity to levy a cleaning charge.

  • Bill___A

    Of course we didn’t…

  • Harvey-6-3.5

    I totally agree. By the time the kid is 18, you better be able to step back (or at least let them make their own mistakes), because the lack of skills will not help them later.

  • Annie M

    Perhaps “Callie” missed the bus because helicopter Mom “Sally” wasn’t standing at the bus stop with her advising her to look at everyone getting on the bus at the Megabus stop.

    Mom your intentions are good but you may be creating a child that can’t do anything on her own.

  • The Original Joe S

    Betcha the “MEGABUS” sign was in 6 point type! Ha ha ha!

  • DChamp56

    I bet mommy paid for the tickets…..

  • Pegtoo

    It doesn’t help that Megabus is a nightmare to communicate with. We had a driver decide to skip our stop once, leaving 20 people waiting. Calls to the office said the driver left the stop as scheduled, and it was our fault we missed it. Don’t they have a way to track where the buses are (or aren’t?!)? Luckily another driver reported he saw the wayward bus enroute 20 minutes early… but we still had to argue the new tix should be no charge. Prime example of “you get what you pay for”.

  • greg watson

    WOW !……………………..what more can you say………a helicopter parent………who used vinegar instead of sugar………………hopefully the daughter didn’t know what mom was doing……….if she did, she probably still has a very red face.

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